Men and women enjoy sex equally yet society judges us very differently.
A promiscuous man is congratulated. A promiscuous woman is shamed. This is unfair, but it’s a reality.
Most women have a fear of being ‘slut shamed’ if they’re perceived as being too ‘easy’.
So, it’s your job as a man, to make sex YOUR fault.
What do I mean?
Imagine you’re on a date with a woman. There’s strong mutual attraction. She’s giving you every indicator of interest she can—she WANTS to be seduced by you. She’s hoping you pick up her hints, but more than that, she hopes that you understand women enough to take away the burden of responsibility for sex. She wants it to be your fault.
Guys, if you’re ever at this point on a date, don’t ever, EVER ask:
“Do you want to go back to my place?
What you’re effectively asking is:
“Would you like to have sex with me now?”
“Do I have permission to fuck you?”
No, no, no!
In her mind, if she goes home with you, sex will be her fault because you asked.
And besides, she wants to be seduced by a man who is going for what HE wants—not asking for permission.
Instead, be indirect. Something like:
“Hey, let’s go for a walk” or
“Let me introduce you to my put turtle”
“I’ve got a great bottle of wine we can share at my place”
If she’s into you, she’ll be happy to follow your lead—all the way into the bedroom.
And the next morning, she is guilt free. She can say to herself:
“Wow, how did that happen? How did we end up having sex? I just wanted to meet his pet turtle. It’s not my fault!”.
Sometimes, especially if the guy has not done a great job of making sex his fault, a woman will say things like:
“I was so drunk last night” (yet she only had 1-2 drinks), “Wow that was crazy”, “You’re so bad” etc.
This is her way of saying “It’s not my fault. I’m not a slut.”
Some women will also throw out the old “We’re not having sex tonight” line. This is usually a shit test but it has the added benefit of allowing her to think back later and say “I told him we wouldn’t have sex. It’s not my fault!”
(Before anyone gets in a rage, let me be clear. If a woman does not want to have sex, that’s the end of it. Don’t pressure her. Ever. You are not entitled to anything and you must respect her wishes. This should not even need saying. But for the clueless guys out there, women will often say one thing and mean another so pay attention to what she DOES, not what she SAYS.)
Guys can help take the pressure off even more by saying something like “That was totally my fault.”, “I couldn’t resist you.”, “That was so spontaneous”.
Men, ensure sex is ALWAYS your fault and you’ll be amazed at how seamlessly everything flows.